The Ideal Woman / Man

Many men have struggled with this concept what is the ideal woman, is she a Tyra Banks, Halle Berry, Serena Williams, the girl next door, the super model down the road. The ideas and concepts will go on forever, and many men waste so much time chasing after these categories of women. A few things to take into mind before running out and finding "The Worlds Top Model". Will she have time for you? Will she be willing to commit to a full time long lasting relationship? Is she even interested in the same things you are interested in? Does she like Ice Cream? Yeah I stuck that one in there for a simple reason, the little things can make and break a relationship. I watch blood sports, my wife doesn't like them much but she will watch them to see what I get out of it and end up seeing it. I will watch her lifetime movies to see the emotion factor it feeds her and experience that with her. How many people are willing to come out of their comfort zone for the one they claim to love.

The ideal person will always compromise to find a solution, if your not getting that, you need to think hard about what your getting.

The reality of dating .. Nothing is Real!!!!
The reality of lust .. Everything is in the Moment!!!
The reality of adoration .. Anything is Possible!!!
The reality of love ... Everything is real!!!
The reality of infatuation ... It feels like love!!!

Women tend to settle for what they have and investing into it to the point of can't live without and it ends up in disaster the exceptional few will not compromise and then end up lonely due to the many that compromise. The man for her or him is not necessarily the one for you. In my travels I have met many women and men I will give you a few examples of what I am trying to say. One girl I met had a big black shades on she dropped something and on her way down I saw over the tip of the shades bruises. I asked "What happened" after a few lies and waste of time dodges she admitted "I went out with a guy behind my boyfriends back and he found out, punched me in the eye and kicked me in my stomach" So I asked "Your still with him?" Of course she is ... Why? Cause women who end up with those types of men are usually what other women call weak with no confidence. The bad thing about that relationship it takes too long to end and most of the man's and woman's life is wasted. There are men that need women who will hit back to keep them in check, women with low confidence want strong men but honestly go find that boy scout who will adore you.. I kind of strayed from the topic, it all comes down to one thing.

Are you happy?

How much time do you spend with your man or woman?
Can you tell that person the darkest thing in your life and not worry?
Do you feel inferior?

If the answers are No... Not Much ... Not sure ... Yes.
It's time to start discussing these issues first then fixing it.
The person you chose somehow has one attribute about them you loved so now you need to dig deep to find the others. If you can't, evolution must take place. If your single you have time to observe.. Now as I always do I will leave you with a video that says alot. Part 2 of this topic will need to be done .. give me some time

All women deserved to be loved

Its rather often we find ourselves hating on each other .. Statistics show that a man will hate another man for various reasons but for him to hate a woman she would have to deny him or make him feel less than a man.

Often men are idiots when it comes to approaching a woman .. they start with the lines that were burnt up with the old scrolls of pimpology and tend to think it works. they get insulted then the woman is a bitch or whore or sketel. Now don't get me wrong there are women out there you may just like how she looks and tell her you look gorgeous and she automatically thinks you want her or that friend you give a call out of the blue and she does the same. A man however is inclined to be a man by looking pass what happened letting it go and point out the wrong she did so she knows not to again. It's best to keep a friend than lose one, common sense states life is hard due to us making it complicated..

Now my theory .. If you love a woman any woman being that she is a woman her name may be whatever. The fact she is name Keisha, Lisa, Mary, Ann Marie doesn't matter the underlying issue is that she is a woman.. If she deserves your love and respect even if you dont love another woman, wouldn't other women deserve your respect for being just that... a woman.

Its a simple concept..

Most women are in pain for some reason.. abuse being most common.. sexually, verbally and emotional some just out of circumstance and situation. It is often we overlook the signs and jump to conclusions when they act a certain way or talk a certain way.. the fact still remains if you simply listen you will hear what her heart is saying. She is still and will always be a woman .. even when called a bitch a whore a sketel. She is ultimately a woman..

Now for those women who have gone through the world with no problems and look down at the others like your better, there is your problem you look down on yourself. The simple fact of life remains we will all die making none of us better than the other..

This was a thought from the Real T

I am out ..now for a song from my girl Alicia Keys .. A womans worth

Women and Clothes " The Experience "

I often as a man wonder why women take so long to put on their clothes. It was puzzling, I think most men go through this. How many have taken the time to find out why? OK for a man to understand the concept he must first understand himself. Men go haywire over various things: cars, girls, money, video games, Top of the line PC and PC parts, etc. The statement boys will be boys came from the idea of when a man gets something new which he loves he literally turns into a boy. He will forget all his problems and if its something to be seen .. watch it.. heard .. listen to it .. played .. play it .. built .. make it .. etc. Men like new exciting things that relate to their way of life.

Women are built different, they tend to think about the entire world as an experience. Now I am using this method to simplify it for the men. Walking in the world everyday must feel different for a woman it must be new and exciting. Let me say not all women are this way some are too caught up in career and family matters so they tend to not see the world anymore but their personal situation as an experience. The mother will live through her kids .. buying everything they need to see them smile. The manager will try to complete her objectives before anyone else just to enhance her world. Now back to the woman you just found and you been going out for awhile. You go to pick her up she isn't ready, you wait and wait she comes out and asks how does this look. The worst thing you could do is say "its ok" ... Your job is to give her honest critique. So tell her "I don't like it" or "I love it". She wants to go into the world and experience it on a level where you are the envy of the town for having her.

So what you need to ensure your doing with your woman.. Enhance her shopping experience by being there ever so often. Keep alert to something she liked when you happened to pass that store. Often times you may find that a woman chooses wardrobe that she can mix and match to create new flavors. So do not think because you bought a few pieces of clothes they are high maintenance .. women are more understanding than your car.. friends .. family.. etc.

So just like how you love those new exciting experiences, enhance your woman's experience in the world by indulging in her need to look unlike the rest and watch her shine much to your delight..

This is the Real T

I am out.. but let me leave you with this mix and match cutie I fell in love with on youtube her name is "fuzkittie"

What do you think about your life?

Really try and think about your life. Does it have any impact on people or is it only for yourself? Do you have dependencies? What importance is your life? Do you follow a certain divine entity? What is your purpose? Can you answer any of those questions without thinking too hard? If you can welcome to the Real T